The First Dollar I Ever Controlled - And What It Taught Me

As a child, my parents never allowed me to get a job, insisting that I focus solely on my studies. I didn’t even have an allowance—every dollar was controlled and every cent earmarked for necessities. I admired their work ethic, yet I also felt the weight of financial restriction. I had no money to enjoy lunch with friends or buy a book outside the library, and early on, I learned that money was not just a means to buy things—it was a tool of control.

When I finally left home for college, I took my first true steps toward independence. I moved into my school dorm, even taking out a loan, and later rented a duplex with some amazing friends. Independence, however, came at a steep price—I had to work three jobs just to pay the rent. That grueling schedule was a constant reminder of my vow never to let money control me again. It also made me realize that often we act against our own integrity by staying in jobs and careers that mistreat us and strip away our potential. This is why entrepreneurship has been so important to me.

A recent remark from a political leader—threatening to withhold federal funding from a state that didn’t follow his agenda—triggered memories and feelings of my own struggles with control. It underscored how money, when used as a weapon, can trap us. This reflection led me to HIGHER, my nonprofit dedicated to offering free coaching for women in crisis. Many of these women face financial uncertainty, unaware of their bank balances or forced to depend on allowances from partners. Their stories strengthen my commitment to supporting financial empowerment.

Entrepreneurship remains my ultimate form of liberation. Yes, it’s hard work—demanding and often exhausting—but every challenging day reaffirms my belief that taking control of our finances transforms our lives. My journey is a testament to reclaiming independence and leaving behind a legacy that inspires others to break free from financial constraints.

My seed question for you: 

Are you controlled by money?